I have experienced the transformational powers of coaching first-hand and am so grateful to be able to share this amazing experience and resulting self-awareness and happiness with others. It is when I am able to help others find joy and inner peace that I am truly happy.
Several years ago, I was in a place where many parents find themselves - feeling pulled in multiple directions, and living on auto pilot. I had too little time and energy to devote to all the conflicting priorities in my life, and ended up feeling a bit inadequate at them all. But it was all good – so, who was I to complain? I had a wonderful job and career, good friends, and a great home life, including two amazing children— everything I thought that I wanted when ‘I grew up’. So why this nagging feeling of unhappiness? With each day, as my two adorable children grew so quickly, I realized how important they were to me and that raising them to the best of my ability was my highest priority. But I felt I wasn’t spending enough quality time with them. I was concerned that time was slipping away and I was losing my chance to influence who they were to become. And I was spending even less quality time with my husband. I also felt that I’d become so dedicated to raising my kids, that I’d forgotten who I was. I felt disconnected from my dreams. And – I felt that I had to continue living life feeling this way – that I had no other choice. I felt I was a victim of my circumstances.
My Human Resources role drastically changed on September 11, 2001. Through helping our employees (our offices were across the street from the World Trade Center), I got a glimpse of what it was like to truly help others – to have a significant impact on their lives. It was an amazing experience. I felt so alive! I loved adding that kind of value.
Then after about a year, when it was time to transition back to my normal HR job, I found the old role no longer satisfied me – it didn’t provide the kind of value or meaning that I now knew I wanted.
So now, in addition to feeling stretched too thin and inadequate in my various roles in life, I was also unhappy in my job. But it was a ‘great’ job that I couldn’t imagine leaving, so I viewed the situation as beyond my control, which added to my feelings of frustration. I began working one-on-one with a life coach to help me address these feelings of frustration and inadequacy. I learned coaching skills which allowed me to see things in a much more positive light and completely changed my life. I got clear on my priorities and began living according to my values.
When I was faced with a shocking personal tragedy, I was able to handle the situation with much more grace and ease than I ever imagined, due to what I had learned through coaching. Instead of feeling sorry for myself (“How can I cope with all the stresses of this situation?”), instead of feeling like the victim (“How could this happen to us?”), I was able to see all things I had to be grateful for and I made the conscious choice to see the situation as an opportunity for growth and change. I realized I was never a victim of my circumstances, but that I was the one in control and able to create the life of my dreams. I began to live with an amazing calmness, knowing that I was the cause of my life, not at the effect of my life.
I was so appreciative of the support skills I had learned through coaching, and ultimately decided to pursue a career in coaching. I realized my passion was not to just live my own life to the fullest, feeling fulfilled as a parent, wife, friend, etc., but to help others find that same fulfillment and inner peace in their own lives.
I continue to be thankful of how coaching has enriched my life. Every day, I’m able to more clearly see the abundance in my life. I find ways to spend time enjoying all the things I have to be thankful for. I feel in control of my life. I’ve gained self confidence. I’ve stopped using up my precious energy on negative things, or things I can’t change and instead find positive energy that allows me to focus on keeping my family and friends a priority. So much energy that I’ve been able to find enough to train and complete a full marathon – yep – 26.2 miles! And coaching has allowed me to find clarity in my life – realize my purpose is to help others. And that’s why I’m here – to help parents realize they can achieve balance and satisfaction in lives. And that people can, not only survive in tough times, but thrive!
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